We fall in love until it hurts, or bleeds, or fades in time.
that I ever received in my lifetime.
“Hurting is the very condition of existence"
We fall in love until it hurts.
The moment we decide to surrender our heart to someone we love is exactly the same moment that we have to anticipate that we'll get hurt. But some might say that "love is not supposed to hurt us" and others believe that "loving can hurt sometimes." Well, in fact, both of these are true. However, each person experiences things differently—like how they love, how they get hurt, and how they decide to move on.
Isn’t it marvelous to think that falling in love sometimes means willingly risking the summer you turned pretty just to be held tightly by someone you love during winter? I guess everyone wants to experience that cuddle moment for once or even a couple of times.
In my life, I have loved different people. My family, friends, and those I call my "previous romantic partners." The one who broke my heart first before college, the one you made me special then betrayed me days after, and the one whom I will wait to see for the next 2 years of my life.
I got hurt when each of these relationships had come to an end. Of course I anticipate it to happen. But what stabbed my heart into a million pieces is the fact that I had never known when and how it was going to end.
These people and situations have hurt me so bad to the point that I have to ask myself "what have I done wrong to deserve this?"
And yes, we will get hurt no matter what. But it doesn’t mean that we should hurt ourselves back just because they did.
NO. That's not how it works.
We fall in love until it bleeds.
Some people get used to the idea of "if you never bleed, you're not truly loving." That is why they eagerly want to give it all, to give everything a shot to prove that they've done so much for the sake of love. But you don't have to do that to prove how capable you are of loving.
After we get hurt, of course we bleed.
That’s when our aches become wounds that we will need a repair in the long run. All of the bleeding that loving has caused will turn into an extreme cut that will make us cry over and over again until we get numb.
The memories will leave our wound wide open and it’ll continue to give us pain until we choose to treat it. That’s the saddest part but awakening: we have to deal with the pain first before we get completely healed.
We fall in love until it fades in time.
After all the loving, hurting and bleeding that we get used to, everything will definitely diminish over time—even the perfect moments that keeps running all over our head.
Loving a person to the extent of risking everything for them or doing every sweet little thing for them doesn’t guarantee that they won’t leave. It’s not an assurance that we should hold on to forever—because believe it or not, as time passes, these intense feelings may naturally lessen or change, leading to a different phase or type of love
I would like to say this as this ends. Everything is meant to fade, even the ones we call "happy memories." We have to remember that.
And as long as you’re alive, please live and love. You deserve that. But keep in mind that hurting and bleeding is completely the same—it will break us over and over again. And for most times, it will feel like walking through a field of thorns: relentlessly piercing our feet until we fall in it completely. So continue to breathe and live, then always make sure that love still has a room in your heart.
